“I hate being single..”
“I hate being alone at night in my bed. I want someone to comfort me.”
“I hate going places alone.”
All of those are rational feelings that we experience when we are not in a relationship. Sometimes we look at all these images on social media titled “Couple Goals” or we see our friends with their significant other. Our mind begins to play tricks on us. Sometimes our mind will say “There is something wrong with you if you are single.” We begin to look at ourselves differently and complain to God about all the other couples on social media that look “happy”.
I warn and tell even my students not to get wrapped up on what you see on social media. So many people look like they are having the time of their life in pictures and short clips of them together on social media. At the end of the day you do not know what those couples go through when the cameras are off. Social media is an illusion and it is not real. I will never forget I was in Jamaica and I saw a couple arguing on the beach. He was screaming at her and she was slapping him in the face. 10 seconds later they take a cute selfie and go back to arguing. Don’t you realize that they are fooling so many people on social media that are looking at their pictures? It is very sad that human beings are being emotionally effected by the lies they see on social media. There are so many people in the wrong relationship that feel lonely. I rather be single than in a relationship that God does not want me in.
God’s Purpose For Your Life
There is a reason that you are single at this point in your life. Maybe God wants to grow you spiritually before he puts that person in your life. Maybe God wants you to focus only on him because he has an assignment for you that you need to here without distractions. Maybe God wants to teach you how to fully rely on him and not anyone else. Maybe God wants to uncover somethings in your life, so that you can become closer to him. Maybe God wants you to just be single so that you can fully commit to ministry at this moment in your life and then later on when he knows that you have more time in your schedule to handle a partner then he will bring that person around. For now trust and depend fully on God.
I am not going to sit here and say “You will not feel lonely anymore because you understand the reason why God wants you to be single.” I cannot promise you that. I will tell you this though there will be days in your life where you feel really lonely. There will be days that you believe that there is something wrong with you. Remember God said that he will never leave you nor forsake you. He is always there. The bible states that he is close to those that are broken in the heart. Enjoy being single. Call your friends that are single and hangout with them. Or, even be a third wheel. The older you get the more of a joy it is to third wheel. Lol I promise you that it will be more than alright. God has a purpose and plan for you. Keep working on building the kingdom of Christ.
You do not realize how much joy I experienced when I realized how much strength I held on the inside by being single. I didn’t realize how powerful I was when I walked with my head up high in a room full of people. It feels good to be able to go to places alone and interact with people that I meet at events. When you realize your worth PEOPLE SHOULD BE SCARED OF YOU. In a good way though. I pray that you all find freedom and joy through this journey of your life. Embrace all that God has for you in this chapter of your life. You are not alone; God is always there.
Sooner than you know it that one God has for you will say “Hi my name is… I noticed you from afar. Do you have time to converse so we can get to know each other.”