Some people play a lot because they’ve been hurt way too much, held in so much saddness and anger for too long to the point they are scared if they actually open up and be serious about how they are feeling they may end up breaking.. and the tears may never stop because of all the years they held in the hurt.. for people like that all you can do is hold them.. don’t give them advice just let them cry.. rub their back, embrace them and just be present for them..