Valentine’s Day Blues

I know Valentines Day can be challenging because you are single, your relationship is on the rocks, or the pain from the break up is still fresh and there is no joy on this day for you, but use this day to celebrate the love that God has placed inside your heart and remind yourself how strong you are despite all that tried to break you. 

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“Nobody loves me. Something must be wrong with me because I am single once again on Valentines Day.”

“I hate myself. I am such a LONER”

“Everyone seems so happy but me.”

“Why can’t I be in a relationship like everyone else on Valentines Day.”

Do not allow this day to make you feel sad. Don’t feel ashamed because you are the only one in your friend group that is single. Or, you may have just walked out of a relationship and you are used to spending it with them all these years. I know Valentines Day can be challenging because you are single, your relationship is on the rocks, or the pain from the break up is still fresh and there is no joy on this day for you, but use this day to celebrate the love that God has placed inside your heart and remind yourself how strong you are despite all that tried to break you. Use this day to celebrate the love that you have given out to friends, family, strangers and yourself. Don’t allow this day to rob you of your peace and joy. Stop comparing your life to every couple on social media. Stop thinking that you would be happier if you were in a relationship. Stop wanting what everyone has. God has someone specially designed just for you. He has someone that will be able to love you despite your flaws and shortcomings, but you have to be still and stand on his word.

Do something special on Valentines Day. Go to the park, beach, watch some Netflix or walk around the city and take pictures. There are so many single people in the world, and you are not the only one. I bet you have single friends too! Have a social distance meet up with one of your friends. Make a bucket list and do all the things you love to do, and if you can’t find someone do those things with then do them yourself. God has brought you too far in your emotions to sit around, sulk and feel sorry for yourself. Celebrate how much stronger you are ever since the pandemic. Celebrate that you are alive, healthy and doing your best to hold it together.

So next time you have a sad thought hold your head up high, smile and lift up your hands and begin to thank God for another year of life. You deserve so much on Valentines Day. Go to your favorite bakery, buy yourself some chocolates, brownies and flowers. Hug your loved ones, and Facetime those that you haven’t called in awhile, you may get emotional and cry but let them know how much you love and appreciate them. Please do not sell yourself short this Valentines Day, but instead celebrate life and love. JESUS LOVES YOU!

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When God Tells You to Let Go of Something You Love

Sometimes you have to be willing to walk away from the things we love in order to get closer to God.

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At some point in our lives we must ask ourselves the critical question “What do I need to let go of?” Some of us need to let go of people, things, places or even habits/traditions that we hold dear to our hearts. In order to get closer to God we have to obey God when he speaks. We should not allow anything to get in the way of our relationship with God. Some of the things that we deem as important are sometimes hindering us from our blessing. That open door we have been praying for is right there but in order to walk into our blessing we have to be willing to let go. God has placed a calling on all of our lives, but one thing about God is that he gives us choice and he won’t force us to do anything that we aren’t willing to do.

Do you love God enough to let it go?

That’s a personal question that we have to ask ourselves, and most importantly be real about our conversations with God. God knows when we are telling the truth, and he knows when we are only saying things to sound “good”. God searches the heart, but he also understands that we are human. If you are not willing to let that “it” go, then ask God to change the desires of your heart. Ask him to give you the strength and the WANT to let it go. I promise you that God will come through and deliver you from those struggles that we held on to for so long. Whatever that “it” is, God is bigger and stronger than anything. At the end of this post begin to pray and ask God “What do I need to let go for your glory?” It is a scary question because he will reveal it to us, but it is vitally important for our spiritual growth.

Isaiah 43 18-19 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”

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Too Hurt To Open Up

Sometimes when you’ve been hurt so many times you forget how to open up again.

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The older I get the more I begin to realize that God didn’t create us to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. Why do we often put all these responsibilities and burdens on ourselves? We often feel in times of sadness that we cannot cry in front of everyone because we have to be that “strong support system”. When our friends are going through a crisis we tend to be that friend that listens to all of their problems and take it in, but when we are in time of need it seems as though nobody is there for us because they think that we can carry it on our own. Deep down inside sometimes we are too afraid to open up because we do not want anyone to think that we are weak. We fear that after we unload people may see us as “crazy”. Or sometimes we have pushed others away so much to the point they don’t know how to be there for us.

I am learning that no matter how strong we are. No matter how brave or hard we act in front of others.. we still have emotions. We still need the same support and love that we give back to others. It takes time to allow people fully in especially when we are not used to being vulnerable in front of others. We allow people to let it all out, and we give some of the best advice but then we fail to take in the advice that we give others. We have to learn that it is okay and God want’s us to connect to other human beings on an emotional level. We have to stop shutting everyone out, but I am guilty of having a wall up at times. Sometimes we have been hurt by people so much that we build towers upon towers so that people can’t get too close to us. We allow them in, but not too much. Just enough for our comfort! Who else is guilty?

Pray and ask God to slowly take down the wall, the bridge, that huge Eiffel Tower that took you years to complete in front of your heart. It is important to have a healthy wall up, but not so big to the point you are keeping everything in. Everyone is not the enemy. There are some people out there that truly care about you. Through prayer and reading the word of God he will reveal those that you need to watch out for. Through time God will help you let go of the pain so that you can begin to heal. Even if the pain doesn’t go away fully, Jesus Christ will give you the strength and power to make it through every day. He will give you the courage to use your life as a testimony to help others. Just remember it all takes time. We are in this together.

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Overthinking, Depression, Anxiety During the Pandemic.

Some people have been holding in their pain for so long that if they finally open up they wouldn’t know where to start and the pain would be so deep the tears may never stop flowing.

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Sometimes our mind will tell us that we aren’t good enough, no one loves you, you are all alone, just give up, won’t you just stop trying, you will never reach your dreams, why do you look like that, you are never going to move on and the later it gets at night sometimes our thoughts become darker. We have all been through so much trauma in our life. Some of us have been through things that we would never tell anyone because people will either look at us different or the pain is so deep we would never stop crying if we had the words to express what’s deep down inside of our hearts. Some of us have so many sad stories that we would probably cry uncontrollably because we have held it in for so long.

During this pandemic so many people have been experiencing depression and anxiety. Our anxiety and depression was bad before but now it is at an all time high for most people. I have learned to just pray and depend on God. I realized that if I keep allowing my mind to play tricks on me then I will never become all that God has created me to be. I also learned that during this time it is perfectly fine to be alone. Sometimes we have to be alone in order to hear from God. God want’s us all to be still in this season. Sometimes we are so used to moving very fast and keeping ourselves busy that we aren’t dealing with what is going on the inside of us. Sometimes we keep ourselves busy so we don’t have to put up with our thoughts. I have realized that we have all done this before. Instead of tackling our problems we make excuses about how busy we are, but I believe that God is dealing with each and every one of us.

After this pandemic is over, not sure when it will be but I believe that we are all going to come out spiritually stronger and better. Every time your anxiety is creeping up begin to pray and call out the Blood of Jesus Christ. Don’t allow your depression and anxiety to take you under. Don’t allow your thoughts to drown out all the amazing things God has said about you. You are greater. After this pandemic is over, not sure when it will be but I believe that we are all going to come out spiritually stronger and better. Every time your anxiety is creeping up begin to pray and call out the Blood of Jesus Christ. Don’t allow your depression and anxiety to take you under. Don’t allow your thoughts to drown out all the amazing things God has said about you. You are greater.

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