Your Words Can Bring Life or Kill A Person’s Spirit

There is nothing wrong with trying to become rich and have materialistic items. God can bless you beyond what you could ever imagine, but in the midst of trying to get ahead in life don’t forsake relationships and the love that God has required us to have for each other.

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In life we have become so busy doing our own thing. We live in a culture where money is put before everything. The music we listen to preaches about getting money by any means necessary. I remember when I was a youngster 50cent had an album called Get Rich or Die Tryin. So many people are obsessed with getting rich to the point we are forgetting about what truly matters, and it’s God first and through his love its the relationships we build with other people. So many people in the world are suffering mentally and spiritually. It is disheartening that we have become too busy to make time for others.

There is nothing wrong with trying to become rich and have materialistic items. God can bless you beyond what you could ever imagine, but in the midst of trying to get ahead in life don’t forsake relationships and the love that God has required us to have for each other. Did you know that your kind words can actually save someone’s life? Did you know that someone’s whole life can turn around just because you reached out to them and shared some words of encouragement?

I urge you to take time out of your busy schedule and reach out to someone that you haven’t talked to in a long time. Or, say a quick prayer and ask the Holy Spirit who he want’s you to reach out to. The face that pops inside of your head is the one he want’s you to text/call. The message can be a simple one liner. A few words can go a long way. Allow Jesus Christ to work and continue to plant seeds to grow the kingdom.

1 John 4:8

Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.

Amen!

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Arguing In the Comment Sections On Social Media Destroys Mental Health

Always remember who you are through the eyes of God. Stand on God’s promises and uplift yourself with affirmations. Pick and choose your battles. You do not have to argue with strangers.

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One thing I have learned about life is that it is vitally important to pick and choose your battles. It is not wise nor mentally healthy to make everything into a debate or argument. I can honestly say that many people in life struggle with feeling the need to always voice their opinion. Being on social media can be very triggering because of the different view points that people have about politics, relationships, religion, racism and worldviews. It can be very conflicting at times because of how passionate we are about these sensitive topics. I can honestly say that it is very rare that healthy, positive and respectful debates take place on social media especially on Twitter or in the Instagram comments.

People can be very brutal and bullying often occurs on social media when someone disagrees with your opinion. I have seen cases where people get doxed and their address is leaked all over social media, phone number is released to the public and phone calls are made to their job. It is very sad of the extreme measures people have gone to in order to damage a persons life. I have also saw cases where people will make burner accounts (anonymous accounts) and spew hatred towards others. Some people can handle the negativity that comes with social media but there are those that internalize all of the hateful comments. If you allow it to get to you too much then your whole day will be ruined and instead of focusing on how good God is and counting your blessings you will find yourself fighting back and forth in your mind about the argument you had hours ago.

My best advice is to always remember who you are through the eyes of God. Stand on God’s promises and uplift yourself with affirmations. Also, remember to pick and choose your battles. You do not have to argue with strangers. Instead call up a trusted friend or family member and ask them if they have the emotional mental space to hear you out on the topic that might have triggered you. If you have no one to talk to about it then reach out to God. Begin praying and have conversations with the Holy Spirit! Lol God always listens!!! But if you feel the need to truly comment then just be ready for the negativity.

Truth be told, the conversation on social media can go great, but just always ask yourself if what you are going to comment is worth it. Every time I log on social media I remind myself of the purpose of why I am online, and what topic am I willing to have conversations about. Anything outside of your purpose should be blocked out. NOT because those aren’t important topics, but only because trying to have conversation about EVERYTHING can be very draining.

Always remember if you need to take a break, or fall back from everyone then do it. Be honest with yourself and stay true to who you are on and offline.

Mark 12 30-31

And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”

Amen!

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My Past Is Too Painful & It’s Holding Me Back

The trauma that you’ve experienced was extremely painful, something you’ll never forget but don’t keep allowing that to stop you from living the life that God has for you.

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What is stopping you? Have you ever had a conversation with God complaining about your situation or where you are in life? Maybe you’ve prayed and said, “If it wasn’t for THIS I would be much further in my life! If only, I didn’t have to deal with this struggle I would be closer to you Jesus! I wish I was raised in a different family, so I wouldn’t have to deal with the same ol drama day after day! I wish I had more money then I wouldn’t be stuck in this city!” Maybe all of those statements are true. Maybe if we were in a different situation then we would be much further than we are now.

I realized that sitting around and complaining all day won’t make it better. It only prohibits the power of God working in our life. If we want God to move on our behalf we must allow him to come into our hearts and guide us on what to do and how to handle every situation. The bible states that God is a provider and he will give us the tools in order to navigate life no matter what situation we find ourselves in. At the end of the day we must take personal accountability of the excuses we make for not being where we want to be. The trauma that you’ve experienced was indeed extremely painful, something you’ll never forget but don’t keep allowing that to stop you from living the life that God has for you.

Did you know that if you keep allowing your past to take over your future you are actually stopping all of your future blessings that God has for you? God will give you the tools on how to move on from the past, or move through it everyday. You may never forget how hurt you were but God will help you use your experiences as a way to build up his kingdom.

It is time for you to live your best life in Jesus Christ. After you read this post jot down all your goals that you have in life, and promise yourself that whenever you find yourself complaining, pointing the finger or even blaming God.. STOP! and begin to praise praise him. Changing your perspective on your situation will allow God to intervene and strengthen those area that are hard to let go. Thank him for the good, bad and ugly. Thank him for still giving you purpose and substance in life. Don’t allow the pass to stop you.

Psalm 37 5-7

5 Commit your way to the Lord;
    trust in him and he will do this:
6 He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn,
    your vindication like the noonday sun.

7 Be still before the Lord
    and wait patiently for him;
do not fret when people succeed in their ways,
    when they carry out their wicked schemes.

Amen!

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10 Spiritually BOLD Daily Affirmations In the Morning

The waves of life begin to push harder and it feels like no one is there to pull you out the storm. Getting out of bed becomes challenging each day, and going to sleep becomes a fight because of all the unsettling thoughts running inside of your head. No matter what season of life we are in God promises us to never leave nor forsake us.

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Is life hitting you in all directions? Is it starting to feel as though your bad days are beginning to outweigh the good? In life there are seasons and some seasons are more memorable than others. There are times where everything is going as planned, but then out of nowhere the clouds begin to roll in and the storm comes. The waves of life begin to push harder and it feels like no one is there to pull you out the storm. Getting out of bed becomes challenging each day, and going to sleep becomes a fight because of all the unsettling thoughts running inside of your head. No matter what season of life we are in God promises us to never leave nor forsake us. It is important to empower ourselves through the word of God everyday. The Holy Spirit will always be there to lead and guide!

10 Daily Morning Affirmations

  1. I am delivered and set free in Jesus name.
  2. I am a child of God. Yes I have made many mistakes in my life, but I will not allow anything to keep me down in sin. I am free indeed.
  3. I am a spiritual demon slayer. No weapon formed against me shall prosper.
  4. I am victorious. And my children’s children’s will be blessed and victorious too.
  5. I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me. I will not allow the enemy to speak defeat into my life, and I will not allow myself to speak defeat to myself!
  6. I am not going back to what God took me out of. I will keep moving forward, and when I fall I will get back up again and not overthink the past.
  7. I am good enough. I will not keep thinking low of myself because of the insecurities that I have. God has equipped me for every task!
  8. I am powerful. Everywhere I go I will walk with my head up high.
  9. I am worthy. I know my worth and I will remind myself of who I am in every situation in life because God want’s the best for me.
  10. I am blessed and highly favored.

WE DECLARE ALL THAT HAS BEEN SAID IN JESUS NAME AMEN!

(Now lift up your hands, receive it in your heart and give God your best praise)

Don’t forget to repeat these every morning, and feel free to add some extra daily affirmations to your list OR write them in the comments so that we can all be blessed by your addition.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-22 ESV

Ecclesiastes 3 1-8

3 For everything there is a season, and a time for every [a]purpose under heaven: 2 a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3 a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6 a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7 a time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8 a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.

Amen!

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Hurting Yourself Trying to Be Everything to Everyone

Sometimes we find ourselves feeling mentally and physically drained throughout the day. We often feel alone. Remember that God is always there, and you do not have to do it on your own anymore. Give it to God.

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Sometimes we find ourselves feeling mentally and physically drained throughout the day. At times we think that we just need a long restful night of sleep, but in reality we need more than sleep. There are decisions that we need to make in our lives that God has been waiting for us to make. We sometimes forget that our mental and spiritual wellbeing plays a huge part in how we feel every day. It is more than just being tired, but what are you tired from? You can get all the sleep in the world, but if you have not made lifestyle changes then you will always feel drained, empty, frustrated, confused and tired.

Here are some questions that you can ask yourself if you have been experiencing spiritual and mental fatigue.

Have I been putting other things before God?             

Who in my life do I need to let go, so I can get closer to God?

Do I make time for ME? Or, am I constantly putting others before me?

Have I healed from the trauma that I have been through in the past? Or, am I carrying it with me everywhere I go?

Am I still making time to pray and read my bible?

What kind of people have I been surrounding myself with?

As you are answering these questions remember nobody is perfect. Life can get challenging at times, and it will leave you feeling as though you have no control. You might even feel confused searching for the path to take because everything you have tried in the past has failed. Just remember that God is always there, and you do not have to do it on your own anymore. Give it to God. When you are answering these questions, begin lifting up your hands and say “Lord show me how to do it.” And he will!

1 Corinthians 16:13

13 Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.

Amen!

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Praying Your Struggles Away

We tell ourselves that we won’t do it again, but then we go back to what God delivered us from. The constant fight that we deal with in our souls trying to overcome our personal battles. It can become so exhausting to the point you begin to ask “Why do I have to deal with this Lord?”

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Life can be extremely tough at times. We all have things in our life that we are dealing with behind the scenes. We have become good at hiding our problems because we do not want people to look at us differently. The shame and guilt from our struggles the devil tries to hold over our head. The reminder of the sinful acts that we have committed in the past can linger in our mind from time to time when we are in deep thought. We tell ourselves that we won’t do it again, but then we go back to what God delivered us from. The constant fight that we deal with in our souls trying to fight our personal issues. It can become so exhausting to the point you begin to ask “Why do I have to deal with this Lord?”

The Lord wants you to know that you are more than your struggles. You are more than what you are experiencing. Even if you do not feel free, you have to tell yourself that you are free and delivered. Every night the devil maybe in your mind telling you, “You are always going to feel this way. You are always going to be stuck in this condition.” But you have to rebuke the enemy in your mind, and read your bible. Continue to pray and stand on the word of God. His word is living and breathing. And the more you focus on God, the less you focus on your struggles. Pray and ask God to send you an accountability partner in your life. Someone you can pray with and call whenever you feel weak in the spirit. Don’t be sad anymore. Cry tears of joy because after all these years you are still living for Jesus Christ. If you fall get back up again. Don’t stay down. I pray this encourages you not to give up on God. You are free.

John 8:36 So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.

Romans 3:22-23 Even the righteousness of God, through faith in Jesus Christ, to all and on all who believe. For there is no difference; for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.

Amen

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Spring Cleaning: Friendships

Some friendships have ran its course. Sometimes letting go of certain people will hurt so much to the point no matter how many years pass when we begin to think of them our eyes will suddenly gloss up and the memories of all the good times will begin to flow. The beautiful part about it all is that we will never forget the life lessons that we learned from them in order to grow. So instead of being sad or mad, tell your past thank you! And continue to give God all the glory.

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Last week on Wednesday night I was up until 2AM thinking about the people in my life. I began taking friendship inventory and asking myself critical questions as I was thinking about each individual. The questions that I began asking myself inspired by the Holy Spirit were:

  1. Is this person I call my friend there for me as well when I need them? Or are they only in my life when they need advice and then leave?
  2. Does this friend accept who I am during bad times as well?
  3. Is this friend honest and true, or are they all about drama and causing chaos on social media and in real life?
  4. Does this person hold me accountable when I am wrong, or are they only telling me what I want to hear?
  5. When someone is talking about me do they indulge in the gossip, or do they stop it right then and there.
  6. Do my friends have my back when I am not around? OR, do they enjoy coming back to me and letting me know everything people have said about me.
  7. Do I feel emotionally, spiritually and mentally protected when I open up about my problems with my friends? OR, do I feel as though I have to watch everything that I say about them?
  8. Do my friends really know who I am, or do I have to hold back because of judgement?
  9. Are my friends reflections of who I am, or have I just got comfortable with just having them around?
  10. Are me and my friends helping each other get closer to God?

That night I was in my bed looking at the ceiling and then I got on my knees and began praying. God mentioned to me that nobody is perfect, but that does not give people the excuse to abuse the friendship. God also asked me to apply those questions to myself as well. Sometimes we forget to look in the mirror. We hold other people accountable but sometimes we forget to look at ourselves as well. God then began putting people in my spirit to let go gradually. I realized that some friendships have ran its course. Some people need to be let go out of our lives. Does that make the friendship fake? Of course not! Sometimes we need to let people go so they can grow. Does knowing that make it hurt any less? No, because all of the memories that we shared with them will forever be stuck in our heads. Sometimes letting go of certain people will hurt so much to the point no matter how many years pass when we begin to think of them our eyes will suddenly gloss up and the memories of all the good times will begin to flow. The beautiful part about it all is that we will never forget the life lessons that we learned from them in order to grow. So instead of being sad or mad, tell your past thank you! And continue to give God all the glory.

Isaiah 43 18-19

Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

Amen.

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The Chaos On Social Media

Sometimes we are so focused on speaking out and raising awareness on social media to the point we forget about ourselves. Shocking headlines are taking over our lives and it is driving us to our limits. We forget who we are, we forget what gives us peace of mind, we forget about ourselves because we are so focused on making the world a better place.

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We have all experienced days where we think that all we need is some sleep and then we will be fine in the morning. Our days begin to seem longer than usual and it becomes hard to do anything even the things that we love. We get sleep but then we are still exhausted. I want to offer my advice to you and say take a social media break. That is something many people do not want to hear because we all have this love hate relationship with social media, but take a break. Sometimes we are too involved with the comment sections, going back and forth with people and intaking too much information. We forget to give our minds rest throughout the day. We live in a world of articles constantly being thrown at us. Shocking headlines are taking over and it is driving us to our limits.

You need to create balance in your life. Sometimes we are so focused on speaking out and raising awareness to the point that we forget about ourselves. We forget who we are, we forget what gives us peace of mind, we forget about ourselves because we are so focused on making the world a better place. There is nothing wrong with speaking out but if you are not taking care of yourself you will burn out. You will find yourself running on empty and you will be less effective.

The Benefits of Taking A Break

When you take a break…

  1. You spend more time with God. A relationship with God is the most important connection that you can ever have. Sometimes being on social media too much can cause you to pray less and you’ll find yourself not reading your bible as much.
  2. You give yourself time to reflect and come up with solutions that you did not think about before.
  3. You give your mind, spirit and body rest. Remember there is only one of you, and we were not made to carry the world on our shoulders.
  4. You begin to connect with yourself all over again.
  5. You set time aside to do what makes you happy. You find yourself experiencing joy like old times.
  6. You spend time with people you love and the conversations are about things outside of what is going on in the world and not from social media.
  7. You get more sleep and you give your mind rest.
  8. You find yourself doing new things that you didn’t make time to do before.
  9. You begin listening to yourself more. The voices in your head are not as loud as before because of all the comments and post that you seen on social media minutes before.
  10. You discover the importance of YOU and reconnect with other purposes that you have on earth that God has been trying to make you aware of.

After reading all these pros of taking a break off social media feel free to contact me or comment below to share your experience of taking a break OR other pros of taking a break that you found meaningful.

Isaiah 40:31  but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

Amen.

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Do You Struggle with Seeking Approval and Validation from people?

Don’t go through life seeking approval from other people. You don’t need their validation. You are good enough. Trying to be who everyone wants you to be will drain you mentally and spiritually. Know who you are in God because if you don’t then you will find yourself constantly trying to prove you are worth it. When you were formed God made you into his image and that should be enough.

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Don’t go through life seeking approval from other people. You don’t need their validation. You are good enough. Trying to be who everyone wants you to be will drain you mentally and spiritually. Your relationship with God will become distant and strained if you don’t block out the world. It is so important to know who you are in God because if you don’t then you will find yourself constantly trying to prove you are worth it. When you were formed God made you into his image. You are a powerful spiritual being. There is so much greatness inside of you, to the point you have yet to discover it. Everyday you should get excited because God is working out so many things in your life to be used for his glory. All the trials and tribulations that you are going through right now is only because he is strengthening you to be able to handle the next assignment that he has for you in your life.

When you pray today ask God, “What is my purpose? Why do you have me here on this earth? What makes me different from everyone else?” When God has a calling over your life you will never be able to fit in. You are different from everyone else. You can’t go and do everything all your friends are doing. Yes it may feel lonely at times but the call from our heavenly Father is over your life. Don’t worry about people not understanding you, just know that God does. God will always send someone in your life that will teach, guide and pick you up when you fall. He will provide a friend along the way. But on this day get excited and open up your heart willing and ready to receive the assignment God has for your life. And if you are reading this and have fell off and are struggling to get back on course with God just know that its not too late. God was waiting for you all along. Lift up your hands right now and say “Lord here I am.”

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” Jeremiah 1:5

Amen.

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Should I Stay Or Leave the Relationship?

Sometimes we imagine our whole life with a person but then it all comes to an end when they don’t live up to the expectations they’ve promised us. Humans are humans and just because someone promises us forever does not mean that it will last forever.. as you mature you begin to realize that even though something didn’t last forever does not mean it wasn’t real.

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One of the hardest things to endure at night is trying to figure out if you should stay or leave the relationship. Sometimes we catch ourselves calling our friends for advice and loved ones explaining the situation not knowing what to do. We go from person to person asking for advice and then later become more confused after each conversation because everyone is giving us their personal opinion but our emotions and heart are pointing in different directions. We don’t want to leave but yet we want to stay because of everything that we have experienced with that person. We are tired of the way they treat us, we don’t want to deal with the stress of keeping them around in our lives, but then that still small voice inside of us says that they might change. We hold on to potential but yet we are still learning to look at reality and see people for who they truly are and not who we want them to be. Love can be so confusing especially when we’ve invested so much in the person.

Sometimes we imagine our whole life with a person but then it all comes to an end when they don’t live up to the expectations they’ve promised us. Humans are humans and just because someone promises us forever does not mean that it will last forever.. as you mature you begin to realize that even though something didn’t last forever does not mean it wasn’t real. As you experience your ups and downs, times of confusion and emotional roller coasters with a person.. ask God for advice and always seek him in prayer. He is the only one that knows your future and through reading the word he will give you perfect advice. Yes, God put humans in our lives to guide us but sometimes they just don’t know the right answer when it comes to certain matters of the heart.

Tonight I am praying for anyone out there struggling with their feelings. I pray that God gives you clarity on what to do and that you find strength to accept the truth and follow his will for your life. Now go get some rest, stop asking everyone for advice and just depend on God.

Psalms 145:18 The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth.

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