Spring Cleaning: Friendships

Some friendships have ran its course. Sometimes letting go of certain people will hurt so much to the point no matter how many years pass when we begin to think of them our eyes will suddenly gloss up and the memories of all the good times will begin to flow. The beautiful part about it all is that we will never forget the life lessons that we learned from them in order to grow. So instead of being sad or mad, tell your past thank you! And continue to give God all the glory.

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Last week on Wednesday night I was up until 2AM thinking about the people in my life. I began taking friendship inventory and asking myself critical questions as I was thinking about each individual. The questions that I began asking myself inspired by the Holy Spirit were:

  1. Is this person I call my friend there for me as well when I need them? Or are they only in my life when they need advice and then leave?
  2. Does this friend accept who I am during bad times as well?
  3. Is this friend honest and true, or are they all about drama and causing chaos on social media and in real life?
  4. Does this person hold me accountable when I am wrong, or are they only telling me what I want to hear?
  5. When someone is talking about me do they indulge in the gossip, or do they stop it right then and there.
  6. Do my friends have my back when I am not around? OR, do they enjoy coming back to me and letting me know everything people have said about me.
  7. Do I feel emotionally, spiritually and mentally protected when I open up about my problems with my friends? OR, do I feel as though I have to watch everything that I say about them?
  8. Do my friends really know who I am, or do I have to hold back because of judgement?
  9. Are my friends reflections of who I am, or have I just got comfortable with just having them around?
  10. Are me and my friends helping each other get closer to God?

That night I was in my bed looking at the ceiling and then I got on my knees and began praying. God mentioned to me that nobody is perfect, but that does not give people the excuse to abuse the friendship. God also asked me to apply those questions to myself as well. Sometimes we forget to look in the mirror. We hold other people accountable but sometimes we forget to look at ourselves as well. God then began putting people in my spirit to let go gradually. I realized that some friendships have ran its course. Some people need to be let go out of our lives. Does that make the friendship fake? Of course not! Sometimes we need to let people go so they can grow. Does knowing that make it hurt any less? No, because all of the memories that we shared with them will forever be stuck in our heads. Sometimes letting go of certain people will hurt so much to the point no matter how many years pass when we begin to think of them our eyes will suddenly gloss up and the memories of all the good times will begin to flow. The beautiful part about it all is that we will never forget the life lessons that we learned from them in order to grow. So instead of being sad or mad, tell your past thank you! And continue to give God all the glory.

Isaiah 43 18-19

Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

Amen.

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